Slavery in marriage  

In India, there is a newly emerging understanding that the wife is a slave of the husband, who needs to be saved from his thraldom by means of statutory laws.

Actually this feeling as risen due to the actions of nitwits who want to fiddle with the social machinery without having adequate understanding of what it is they are dealing with.  When seen from English, there are immense differences in the Indian social scene. For example, in an English nation, the subordinate is not much below his superior in that the words You, He, She, His, Him, Her etc. are all same for both.

In the Indian feudal languages, there is a sharp lowering of status for the subordinate. Similarly, the wife in the Indian setting is quite different from a wife in an English nation. If the woman in India is feeling a lowering of status, it is not something imposed on her by her husband. It is a position that is assigned to her in words by her parents, her brother and sister, her uncles and aunts, and by all her other family members, her teachers, her friends, neighbours and others. When a marriage takes place, what takes place can be a removing of her from these command links and placing her in another command link. In many ways, it is a very powerful shift. The cosy feel of the old command links have to be shredded. It can be a bit unnerving for everyone concerned.

The essential issue of marital discord arises as soon as the ancient command links try to re-connect on to her. If she is not willing to disconnect their powerful enwrapping links, the husband or his family members may get distressed. It is not some imaginary feeling. For, the links are quite real, and they will feel them prodding in their midst, trying to impose outside commands and compulsions on to her.

As for the parents, when their daughter gets married, they are really losing one of their very powerfully placed disciples. They would feel this loss powerfully. For, when a disciple is lost, that much leadership vanishes. Yet, in most Indian marriages, the parents usually gain. For instead of losing a disciple, they actually gain one more disciple; her husband. He also comes in the same location that she also stood. He is also then a Nee, an Avan and such things.

The issue of gain and loss depends on what the husband aims to do. If he is willing to be a Nee, and Avan etc. for his in-laws, well then there is marital happiness. If on the other hand, he is a free bird, then it is a right recipe for marital discord. Yet, the wife can save the family unit by coupling powerfully with her husband. In which case, he becomes the leader.

If on the other hand, the wife stands by her own family members, then they would see the husband as an evil person, who is trying to enslave his wife. Actually, this issue of slavery is only a perspective. Either the husband’s slave or her own parent’s slave.  What she likes is not slavery, what she does not like is slavery.

Now it may be mentioned in passing that even this aspect of being slavish and not slavish, may have its specific codes in the virtual software. The change from one to another may happen as certain links are manoeuvred, shifted and or replaced.